WARNING for MALE AD's

[bigchris 1]

I know that mst of this will be common sense but there were some that were surprised by my response to two of our residents........

 

 

Note to those Male AD's- Although I am not as experienced as some, take this post to heart, it may save you someday.

 

All,

 

 

I have two female residents who are mentally unstable, mainly with male residents and staff. One of the residents whom I will call Ms. A has made numerous claims of being raped by "someone". Yes we have gone through all of the steps, calling the ombudsman, state, and psych. However, by GA state law, EVERY claim needs to be investigated to the fullest. Granted, I have not been investigated but it did raise my awareness and as an educator for the state, I wanted to warn other males.

 

Res. #2- Is desperate for sexual contact regardless of her condition, she is hyper sexual and makes inapropriate comments to male staff.

Once again, men be supervigilant of this type of resident for the same reasons!!

 

I say this for simple reasons, I have had residents with dementia, think that I was thier ex-husbands, boyfriends, etc.

It broke my heart when one of my residents, thought I was her ABUSIVE ex- husband. A relationship that was caring at one point, was heartbreaking the next. I had to stay away from a person that I had cared for over 4 years.

 

 

Guys, be safe and use the following safe guards for residents that may have a cognitive shift:

 

1) Never go into this type of residents room alone. I grab anyone I can get, preferably a higher level nurse or staff member.

 

2) If there is no one, stay at the threshold of the door until you can find someone.

 

3) DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT.

 

4) See #3.

 

5) Add careplan initiatives to provide if you cannot yourself.

 

6) Do not let your guard down. It will only be trouble.

 

 

Let me know what you think.

 

 

Chris

[OceanGuy23 2]

Hey Chris,

Very good approach when confronting this sort of situation. Documentation is very important and must be done, especially on res. care plan. I have never experienced this issue although we do have res. who think I am their son or grandson or call me by any other name other than my own name but we've all encountered this in long term care. By the way Chris, I think I read on this site about you and care plans. Can you tell me where I can get a really good care plan resource book. I know there is more than one lol. Thanks. Activities Rocks!!

OceanGuy23

[Guest Tinki]

This is not just for males suprisingly - I had a married man and woman who lived in the Alzheimers wing. The wife was convinced that I was having an affair with her husband he was 92 and I was 25. I tried to explain to her that it was impossible but she just could not get passed it. She would get very agitated when I was around - it broke my heart.

 

Now no one else believed it to be true ( obviously) but I think in that situation following Chris's suggestions might have been very helpful.

 

Karen

[bigchris 1]

Update-

 

As I re read this post I want to tell you that it is paying off, We have state in the building and they went over my docs!!!!

 

More as I get it.

 

BC

[OceanGuy23 2]

Hey Chris,

Good luck with state. Im sure everything will turn out good. Be encouraged.

OceanGuy23

[bigchris 1]

I have heard from some of you with your stories about simaler situations. I would like for you to share them here instead of in a sheltered fashion. I think that it would help us all!

 

 

Chris