lauratracy 0 Report Share Posted December 31, 2007 Hi everyone, I have been the Activities Director at my facility since May of this year. I have worked at this facility for 2 years and was promoted to director in May. The admin. who promoted me started there in April. Anyway, this is my problem......when she promoted me I had no experience as a director and she completely ignored me! There was no one to orient me to this position and I feel like she just left me to figure things out for myself. The previous director of 3 years taught me many things incorrectly so I have had to learn the correct way of doing things. (she never wrote care plans, mds notes, never had the newsletter, calendar, dietary orders completed on time, was completely unorganized, dishonest, and usually worked a seven hour day but got paid for eight, etc.etc.) I have worked very hard these past few months to organize and run this department. I feel I have done a great job! Now I know there is always room for improvement and I am willing and open to better myself. I am planning on getting my certification. I know this woman just doesn't like me. I can feel it when we are in a room together which isn't very often because she never interacts with me. I feel like she is sorry she promoted me and wished she hadn't. She just did my evaluation and I feel she focused alot on my lack of education and the fact that I am a new manager with very little leadership skills. She gave me a book on leadership and told me to read it. She never gave me any credit or even mentioned all the hard work I have done cleaning up the other director's mess. (Oh, by the way she loved her) She also never mentioned all the work I did for Christmas. She did tell me at the end of my evaluation she thinks I am very creative but she also feels there is alot more in me. I never know anything that is going on in the facility. I know she does not view me as her peer. I feel so uncomfortable and inadequate around this woman! I am very intelligent and articulate but, when I interact with her I feel less than. I have been tearful and I have a huge not in my stomach about returning to work tomorrow. She just did my eval. on Friday.I feel like I have to prove myself to her and I don't think anything I do will be enough. I guess I need to look for other employment. Until I find something does anyone have any advice on how to deal with a supervisor that doesn't like you? I would appreciate your advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SLFAdministrator 0 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 Hi Laura, I'm an administrator and I'm happy to provide you with my perspective. A few things: 1) You haven't lost yet- you have a huge opportunity to make a comeback and prove her right for giving you the position 2) Try to maintain a more positive disposition- the glass is still half full! 3) Be proactive- don't wait for her to correct you. If your boss is giving you books to read and telling you that she sees more in you then you should see that in yourself! Maybe, just maybe, she means what she says and she wants you to succeed? Now- your predecessor is gone and she didn't do such a hot job. Welcome to management- consider this a learning experience. This will not be the last time that you inherit a department that wasn't running well- instead of looking at this as a problem, look at it as an opportunity to shine! Be careful not to "bad mouth" the previous director- it says more about YOU than it does her/him. Better yet- don't let others "trash talk" him/her either- just say "it's a new day and we're having fun" and avoid any negative talk by being positive. Creativity is not enough- if she is giving you a book on leadership then she's looking for you to develop specific skills. Read the book- ask to meet with her and tell her the skill areas you feel you need to work on and how you plan to develop those areas and ask HER if she agrees with your plan for self-improvement. It's a great way to show her that you are committed to bringing your performance up to her expectations. I'm going to suggest another book to you- Emotional Intelligence. It will change your life. Also....Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office. Take a deep breath......learn that constructive criticism can be your best friend! Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DjHAWKY 0 Report Share Posted January 1, 2008 Laura,... Admin is right.. there is only one thing worse than someone that rides your but and thats is not having anyone who cares enough about you to ride your but. You have all the power ... its your programs and your festive nature and your show that make the facility a success, you fill the beds.. Dietary is the same spoon, fork, napkins and Meatloaf, Nursing is bedpans, meds and care, Maintenence is lightbulbs and mops... its your show to take Meatloaf on plastic plates and make a "Elvis Dinner Theater" complete with Neon Lights, Blue Suede Shoes, Viva Las Vegas DVD and Peanut Butter and Banana Dessert! Its You!.. not your education or your lack of, its you, the popular kid, Bubbles the Clown.. the one everyone wants to be around. You sell potential customers as they tour your facility with the admin, the families will always be talking in the community about the crazy fun mom has at the facility.. You say that you never know whats going on at the facility.. YOU is what should be going on at the facility, let everyone try to keep up with you for awhile.. Its your heart that makes you a good AD not your education.. do what you feel in your heart is the best thing, listen and care for all you friends (residents) and dont ask your assistants to do anything you wouldnt do.. you'll be fine.. DJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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